We’ve all heard the different terms for moms like momager, helicopter mom, team mom and the classic soccer mom.
I wondered, what kind of mom am I? Guess who had the answer for me — Oprah.
A quick Google search netted a quiz on Oprah.com about what kind of mom you are; here’s what Oprah (well the quiz on her website anyway) said about me: The Funseeker Mom — “Funseeker Mom is always ready for action with a cooler full of snacks, ice-cold juice boxes and a go-to attitude. She makes the best of any situation, whether it’s a long carpool line or bad year in algebra. And, she never lets the fear of no available parking stop her from heading to the beach or the park with a car full of kids. She’s glass-half-full all the time.”
Check out www.oprah.com/relationships/What-Type-of-Mom-Are-You-Quiz to see what kind of mom Oprah thinks you are. Of course, I agree with this assessment more or less although it was based on a handful of pretty silly questions. It sounds pretty good, so of course I’ll go with it.
The blogosphere is full of momikers. I’ve gleaned just a few from several different sources. Just to be clear, I am not coining or defining these names they are from radicalparenting.com, Yahoo! Voices and thestir.cafemom.com.
–Tiger mom, Wolf Dad or Panda Dad. Apparently naming a parenting style/type after animals is all the rage. Tiger mom came from a 2011 book, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” by Amy Chua. Her description was based on practices common in households ethnically similar to her Asian household with a focus on being extremely strict disciplinarians. A Wolf Dad came to be after Xiao Baiyou, a China father, published a book boasting about how he beats his children to maintain order in his house. The Panda Dad moniker came in direct response to the Tiger Mother craze with an American dad saying he was “happy to parent with cuddliness, but not afraid to show some claw.”
–Helicopter Mom gets her name because she hovers over her children; even when the kids do get away, this mom is trying to hover, get involved, etc.
–Lawn mower Mom is the kind of parent who allows no obstacle in front of their child because she has already mowed it down. Picture the mom who does her daughter’s homework or cleans her son’s room making everything simple for their children.
–Free-range parenting got its name, although it has been around longer, after a column was published in 2008 in the New York Sun by self-proclaimed free-range parent Lenore Skenazy. The column, “Why I Let My 9-year-old Ride the Subway Alone,” was coupled with her proposal for parents to take their kids to a local park and leave them there with no supervision. It’s the hands-off parenting approach.
–Attachment parent is another one that’s been around for decades. The concept was created by pediatrician Dr. William Sears with the attachment parenting concept having parents working from birth to develop a close bond with their babies. Ideas include co-sleeping, babywearing and breast-feeding.
–Dragon mom was born out of the story of Emily Rapp’s story of parenting a son with a fatal illness. She described it as being “fierce and loyal and loving as hell.” The movement is also about living in the moment with your kids and loving them for who they are right now, not for the Ivy league education you dream they’ll get or the grandchildren they could one day give you.
–Sponge Mom wants to spend every second with her child and worry about her constantly; she shares her child’s pain, joy and life.
–Rock Mom is the strong and silent type. She is always there but isn’t going to get all sentimental where her kids leave for camp.
–Friend Mom will be the one that watches her kids favorite shows and really enjoys hanging out with her son and his friends. She may even ask her teenage daughter to borrow her clothes.
–Mom CEO has a long-term plan and runs her home and family like a business. Her diaper bag may look like briefcase and family vacations often have itineraries.
– Momtrepreneurs are blogging, crafting, on a conference call and selling the entire way through the pick up line at school. She may hand out her business card or product line at the PTA meetings.
– UberMoms aren’t as obvious about their hovering like helicopter moms but are the secret guiding hand behind what their child does. You ask their child why they do X and their answer is, “I don’t know, ask my mom.”
– Cosmomom is social, hip and makes it to the “It” club after bedtime stories. You’ll spot her by her Manolo Blaniks, Dior diaper bag and Channel lip gloss.