The term “mom” can become all consuming. It’s a title I am so very honored to have and wear proudly. It’s a lifestyle that I’ve jumped into and can’t imagine things any other way. I respond to it and all its variations — momma, ma, mom-mom — even from kids that aren’t mine.
But you know what, before I was a mom I was a wife, daughter, friend, reporter and just plain ol’ Abbey. But it is so easy to get consumed by “mom.”
I can’t stress enough, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that role. I enjoy being mom so much. It’s a job I’ve spent much of my life preparing for and am so happy I get to do it. I hope to one day soon have a second munchkin to call me momma.
And for me, I’m a better mom when all those roles — mom, wife, daughter, friend, reporter — are being fulfilled. They obviously won’t always get equal attention, nor do I think they need to. I think “mom” will always be priority. But during different life stages the focus should (and needs to) shift around a little.
It’s been a tough couple of weeks for this momma, so it was time to refocus things a little.
A weekend away with just my husband was exactly what was needed. I know many families are unable to do this and may have to be more creative with finding ways to refocus the roles. And usually I’m in this category of finding a “weekend getaway” out of our budget. But the opportunity for a great deal arose and we grabbed it. And thankfully my mom was able to watch Miles for us.
And I tried to be “wife” all weekend. Of course I thought about Miles, and we even “Facetimed” him Saturday evening. I exchanged several text messages with my mom to check in. I knew she had things under control; it is just hard to let things go sometimes.
But the weekend away was just what I needed — it was a great chance to reconnect and renew that relationship.
Is it hard to balance your parenting roles? How do you balance being mom, wife and friend?