Mom AND wife

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The term “mom” can become all consuming. It’s a title I am so very honored to have and wear proudly. It’s a lifestyle that I’ve jumped into and can’t imagine things any other way. I respond to it and all its variations — momma, ma, mom-mom — even from kids that aren’t mine.

But you know what, before I was a mom I was a wife, daughter, friend, reporter and just plain ol’ Abbey. But it is so easy to get consumed by “mom.”

I can’t stress enough, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that role. I enjoy being mom so much. It’s a job I’ve spent much of my life preparing for and am so happy I get to do it. I hope to one day soon have a second munchkin to call me momma.

Even with that overwhelming joy and love of being mom, it can be just that, overwhelming. And oh so easy to forget about life before motherhood, easy to neglect the other relationships in our life.hm3

And for me, I’m a better mom when all those roles — mom, wife, daughter, friend, reporter — are being fulfilled. They obviously won’t always get equal attention, nor do I think they need to. I think “mom” will always be priority. But during different life stages the focus should (and needs to) shift around a little.

It’s been a tough couple of weeks for this momma, so it was time to refocus things a little.

A weekend away with just my husband was exactly what was needed. I know many families are unable to do this and may have to be more creative with finding ways to refocus the roles. And usually I’m in this category of finding a “weekend getaway” out of our budget. But the opportunity for a great deal arose and we grabbed it. And thankfully my mom was able to watch Miles for us.

And I tried to be “wife” all weekend. Of course I thought about Miles, and we even “Facetimed” him Saturday evening. I exchanged several text messages with my mom to check in. I knew she had things under control; it is just hard to let things go sometimes.

But the weekend away was just what I needed — it was a great chance to reconnect and renew that relationship.

Is it hard to balance your parenting roles? How do you balance being mom, wife and friend?

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